It has been a while sinceThe Ultimatum: Queer Loveseason 1 aired, and it’s time for an update on popular cast member Xander Boger. Xander, who uses she/they pronouns, went onThe Ultimatum: Queer Loveseason 1with her partnerVanessa Papa. The show aired 10 episodes and ran from late May 2023 to early June 2023. It had a very popular reception and was a pioneering show for Netflix’s reality TV division.
The Ultimatum: Queer Loveis a spinoff ofThe Ultimatum: Marry or Move On, which follows the same premise of couples being at crossroads.Both shows have been renewedin 2024. While neither has an official air date, fans can anticipate both dropping in late 2024 or early 2025. There is also an international spinoff to the franchise withThe Ultimatum: South Africa. Xander was an integral part of what madeThe Ultimatum: Queer Loveseason 1 so successful.
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Xander & Vanessa’s The Ultimatum Journey
Their Time On The Show Was Wild
Xander and Vanessa came onNetflix’sThe Ultimatum: Queer Loveafter having been in a relationship for four years.
The high school friends turned lovers were trying to decide if they should break up or stay together, with Xander issuing the ultimatum to Vanessa.
When they separated for their trial marriages, Vanessa chose Rae Cheung and Xander chose Yoly Rojas.
When Vanessa and Rae were in their trial marriage, the pair ended up hooking up, which resulted in the “Finger-Gate” scandal. Rae’s girlfriend Lexi Wilson was very upset by the situation and called Vanessa out as being on the show for personal gain. Moreover, Xander built a connection with Yoly, and they hooked up, which only further complicated the situation. In the end,Xander told Vanessa she was done with the relationship, and Lexi and Rae left the show engaged. Xander wanted to pursue things with Yoly, who came into the experience with her partner, Mal Wright.
What Is Xander & Yoly’s Relationship Status?
While Xander wanted to choose a future with Yoly, Yoly leftThe Ultimatum: Queer Loveengaged to Mal. Xander and Yoly did meet up at the Coachella Festival after Yoly and Mal broke up due to their differing commitment to the relationship, however,Xander and Yoly didn’t try dating again. Yoly is now in a new relationship, and Xander appears to still be working on herself. Xander and Yoly do not follow each other on Instagram.
Are Xander & Vanessa On Good Terms?
Has Either Moved On Into New Relationships?
After the show, Vanessa stayed single for a while, but has since started a new relationship, and has been hard launching her mystery girlfriend all over her Instagram page.Xander has been quiet about her love lifepost-The Ultimatum: Queer Love, and has not made any mention of or made any posts regarding her romantic endeavors or future. Xander and Vanessa do not appear to be on good terms at this time, as they do not follow each other on Instagram. Xander and Mal appear to still be in contact, as they recently hung out in L.A.
Xander’s Location & Job
Xander Has Been Living Her Best Life
Xanderis active on Instagram, where she has 255,000 followers on her verified account. Xander goes by"Dr. Xander Boger"in her Instagram profile, andpromotes herself as a Physical Therapist and a"Mind-Body Movement Coach.“Xander lives in Hawaii and has many posts showcasing the beauty of her island home. Much of Xander’s Instagram page is dedicated to her physical fitness and achievements as a Mind-Body Movement Coach. Xander will also be hosting a wellness retreat on the Big Island of Hawaii in late October 2024 and has been promoting it all over her page.
The Ultimatum: Queer Loveput Xander and Vanessa’s relationship to the test, and while it didn’t work out for them, they both saw a lot of personal growth and came out of the experience with strong friendships — just not with each other. Xander appears to living her best life post-show and is focused on her mental and physical health. Xander and Vanessa’s relationship greatly contributed to the popularity of the show and its momentum into future seasons.
The Ultimatum: Queer Love
Cast
The Ultimatum: Queer Love follows five couples comprising women and non-binary individuals at a pivotal relationship juncture. As one partner seeks marriage and the other hesitates, they issue ultimatums, leading to an eight-week journey where they explore new partners to decide on marriage or separation.
